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Where You Go I Will Go: When God Sends You a Ruth
We have been reading the book of Ruth through only one lens. We scan the pages for Boaz and miss the covenant that made everything else possible. Before there was a harvest or a blessing, there was Ruth choosing to stay with Naomi in the middle of her devastation.
This post looks at what that kind of loyalty teaches us about healing in community, and I share the story of the three people who showed up at my door during my hardest August, when I could not even answer the phone. You do not need a full cup to show up for someone. You just need to go.
We Couldn’t Do It Without Him
Here is the truth that holds this entire forgiveness series together — we cannot do any of this on our own. Not one bit of it.
In the final post of the Forgiveness Series we get to the heart of everything. Why forgiveness is a divine collaboration not a human achievement. What the parable of the lost sheep has to do with forgiving yourself. And what it actually feels like when the Holy Spirit downloads something into your spirit that shifts everything. This post was written from the middle of the journey — not the end of it. Because we are in this together. And God meets us exactly where we are.
Forgiveness Has a Scope, And a Boundary
Forgiveness and boundaries are not opposites. You do not have to stay in what is hurting you to prove that your forgiveness is real.
In Part 3 of the Forgiveness Series we talk about the full scope of forgiveness — who, what, where, and when — and we name something the church doesn't always say clearly enough: being a woman of God does not mean being silent about harm. We explore what Jesus actually said about leaving, what boundaries really are, why pursuing justice is not unforgiveness, and what forgiving yourself has to do with all of it. This one is for the woman who has been told that staying was the faithful thing to do.
Because He First Forgave Us
Why does Jesus ask us to forgive? It's a fair question — and the answer is more convicting than comfortable. In Part 2 of the Forgiveness Series we get honest about the Jonah moment — that place where you don't want grace to be available to the person who hurt you. We explore the difference between reading the Bible with a Disney mindset versus an honest one, what Matthew 18 really says about forgiveness, and the difference between guilt and God's conviction. Because guilt keeps you ashamed and stuck. God's conviction points you toward hope. And that difference changes everything.
Forgiveness Is a Choice, Not a Feeling
The first time God asked me to forgive someone, my answer was no. Not dramatically — just honestly. If you have ever felt that way, this post is where the forgiveness series begins. Forgiveness is not a feeling you wait for. It is a conscious choice you make — imperfectly, maybe tearfully, maybe through gritted teeth. In Part 1 of the Forgiveness Series we explore what forgiveness actually is, why healing begins with it, and the one question that starts the whole process. This is not a tidy three step plan. This is an honest, faith rooted conversation about what it really costs to choose freedom over resentment.
The Anatomy of an Apology: What We Forget When We're Busy Protecting Ourselves
We live in a world that tells us to protect our peace, guard our space, and cut off what does not serve us. And while learning to guard your heart is necessary, something vital gets lost when we stop knowing how to repair. This post is about what a real apology actually is, why it is harder than we think, and why at the end of the day it comes down to one question: can you choose love over ego? Because healing was never meant to make us hard. It was meant to make us wise.