Posts tagged relationship
Not the Possibility of You, But You

AB: you know he has these amazing qualities that I admire in people, and I want within myself, but I just don't know.

HL: Like which part of him are you attracted to spiritually like as what you want in friendship and which parts are you attracted to in a relationship?

AB: Honestly, his desire to keep growing closer to God and wanting to chase after him is beyond the moon for me because I want that too. I want to keep chasing God. He deepens his relationship with the Lord through Scripture and service, and it's genuine because it's not to impress anyone or say here I am. Unless you dig it out of him, you wouldn't even know what he does for the glory of God. That's what attracts me to him spiritually, and I want that in all my friendships. Though, intimate relationship-wise, I think it's admirable that he prioritizes his family and speaks highly of them no matter what. His ability to let life be life and how inviting he is to every person is something I want in the man I do life with. He doesn't speak poorly of anyone.

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Cozy and Delicious: Busboys and Poets

Privacy is a luxury[…]

One of the perks of having a fantastic support system is how understanding, patient, compassionate, honest, and vulnerable they are. I mean, being able to spend time with one another and share our struggles and accomplishments while respecting and cheering each other on is priceless. Having a wonderful group of humans around you should be celebrated, and I've come to learn that I do that best when I take my loved ones on personalized dates. Recently, one of my ladies and I decided that we should take each other on a date. So we did. […]

If you're a lover of intimate family settings where everyone is in a positive mood and is comfortable and relaxed then Busboys and Poets need to be on your list of favorite restaurants in Northern Virginia.

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Your Choices Speaks Volumes

Some of us are quick to say that we love ourselves, but the choices we make seem to contradict that statement. How? When we make decisions to keep people in our lives who aren't a part of our alignment or distract us from who, God has destined for us to become. (you know the truth behind this more than anyone who those people are.) When we settle for anything that we know will cause less growth than if we were simply with Christ, we're not loving ourselves!

We cannot be in a healthy relationship with anyone if we're not in a healthy relationship with ourselves. We cannot give love if we don't first give it to ourselves. We cannot accept love if we first do not accept the love that God has for us. We cannot be who we're meant to be if we do not allow ourselves to meet ourselves. You and I cannot say we love ourselves if we don't know ourselves (which takes time, patience, compassion, and honesty).

Love for others begins when we love ourselves first. Respect for others starts when we respect ourselves. Compassion exists when we learn to give it to ourselves firstmost.

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It's Not My Time

Are you ready for marriage? When do you want to get married? I have a (fill in the blank) that is perfect for you. Would you be up for it?

we see how others have designed their lives and what's expected of us, we tend to allow ourselves to get into this warped comparison and a skewed perspective game that can diminish our sense of who we are and what God is saying and doing with us.

There is no person better to explain to you what you ought to do and how you ought to live your life than the one that gave it to you. (Of course, God will place the right people in your life to help guide you in making the best choices and that's where discernment comes into play.) And in all honesty, I used to be scared, no terrified of saying no or even attempting to object anything people would ask of me. Not saying that it has completely changed ( I have to catch myself sometimes) but I've learned three important lessons regarding those questions:

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Lessons I'm Taking Into 2019

What a year this has been. From moving to a new place to getting pets and deciding to allow Christ into every aspect of my life entirely, 2018 has been one for the books. The year of growth. Yup, that's what I'm going to call it.

There has been an overarching theme of self-growth, self-love, and self-care for me this year. I'm praying that as the clock strikes midnight and we step into a new year, we continue to prioritize these aspects of our growth. I don't want to forget that make sure I'm happy and healthy will result in living the life I was always wanted. So as a promise to myself, I decided to write down seven valuable lessons I learned from God about myself and relationships. These are lessons I pray that I store away in the back of my mind.

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Time to Call Myself Out!

Every relationship people covet and claim as wonderful required constant communication. Just as it is important to properly communicate with your SIGNIFICANT other when you’re upset, it is just as imperative to properly understand and interpret the information your actions and thoughts are sending. You can’t do anything correctly if you’re not working properly.

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