"Deep down, we grow in kindness when our kindness is tested." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
When you exercise love and willingly give it to others no matter how much pain you are in, when you remove your initial attachment to any form of pain, you begin to take back your power. That power is joy, and your humanity needs it.
No matter what happens in life, you always have a choice, and your decisions are evident in your words, thoughts, and actions. Each word, each decision, gets you closer to either becoming a bitter person or a more loving human; it's all in the choices you make. I decided to see others the way God saw them and not with my human eyes.
I think to myself, "Wow, how amazing is that God allowed me to face these different forms of pain? I would've never understood the level of pain and struggle my brothers and sisters who face this go through if I couldn't relate. God has used this to bring me closer to the many people who have suffered misconduct and violence. And not only that but how difficult it is when others play the comparison game amid the pain.
I'm blessed that I got to be able to witness this, and now I feel much closer to each person because we all feel pain and we all struggle to share for fear of rejection and judgment due to all the hurt we feel. Now that I've faced both by sharing and have come out with more joy than I knew was possible, I know that there are more joy and love in me to give to my brothers and sisters as they face all sorts of hurt and pain life gives them."