Posts tagged compassion
Not the Possibility of You, But You

AB: you know he has these amazing qualities that I admire in people, and I want within myself, but I just don't know.

HL: Like which part of him are you attracted to spiritually like as what you want in friendship and which parts are you attracted to in a relationship?

AB: Honestly, his desire to keep growing closer to God and wanting to chase after him is beyond the moon for me because I want that too. I want to keep chasing God. He deepens his relationship with the Lord through Scripture and service, and it's genuine because it's not to impress anyone or say here I am. Unless you dig it out of him, you wouldn't even know what he does for the glory of God. That's what attracts me to him spiritually, and I want that in all my friendships. Though, intimate relationship-wise, I think it's admirable that he prioritizes his family and speaks highly of them no matter what. His ability to let life be life and how inviting he is to every person is something I want in the man I do life with. He doesn't speak poorly of anyone.

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Your Choices Speaks Volumes

Some of us are quick to say that we love ourselves, but the choices we make seem to contradict that statement. How? When we make decisions to keep people in our lives who aren't a part of our alignment or distract us from who, God has destined for us to become. (you know the truth behind this more than anyone who those people are.) When we settle for anything that we know will cause less growth than if we were simply with Christ, we're not loving ourselves!

We cannot be in a healthy relationship with anyone if we're not in a healthy relationship with ourselves. We cannot give love if we don't first give it to ourselves. We cannot accept love if we first do not accept the love that God has for us. We cannot be who we're meant to be if we do not allow ourselves to meet ourselves. You and I cannot say we love ourselves if we don't know ourselves (which takes time, patience, compassion, and honesty).

Love for others begins when we love ourselves first. Respect for others starts when we respect ourselves. Compassion exists when we learn to give it to ourselves firstmost.

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Do You Love Yourself?

"Do you love yourself?"

If your answer involved a forceful response where you octave was higher than your natural tone, we should talk.

If your answer seemed forced as if there were a point to be proven, we should talk.

If your answer continued with explanations that involved your character, traits, or reasons that you wanted to give to why you love yourself, then we should chat.

If your answer were fickle (a yes, but shaky, a maybe, a sort of, or a no), we should talk.

What fascinates me is the difficulty this simple question presents. (Now, knowing me, be mindful that I have yet to have mastered this question or the depth to which the reasons that were given to me have. But I'm learning and growing daily.) How is it possible that a straightforward question such as "do you love yourself," can be complicated? I thought of two reasons why we overcomplicate this question…

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