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IG Live w/ Special Guest Cass Albert: Emotional And Psychological Abuse

Where is God in Emotional and Psychological Abuse?

Join us as we dive deeper into the issues and results of emotional and psychological abuse and how to find your voice and freedom!

Please be mindful that this is a highly sensitive topic and as a team, we recommend that every person reaches out to a professional. The topic and information shared is with caution and advised here on after to seek a mental health professional as soon as possible.

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Some Lessons from the Journal Entry

Steve Maraboli said, “It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration. Those emotions are poison to any living goal.” I couldn't agree more. 

There is a level of clarity, understanding, awareness, and mindfulness that comes with time spent voluntarily in solitude. In fact, when you begin to taste the level of knowledge you gain in stillness, it almost seems unpleasant to come out of that level of alone time. ( keyword is the alone time, not loneliness) Of course in due time the lessons you've gained in solitude will need to be exercised by coming out and applying what you've achieved.

Your inner child knows about the things that occurred in your childhood that have manifested themselves in your adulthood. 

Everyone's healing, grief, and growing process are different, and your journey gets better as you learn to be attentive to your soul and the Holy Spirit so that you can process properly. Trust me when I say that the last thing you want is to go through the same situations over and over because you refused to heal and take your time. 

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Don't Be Silenced: Q & A

"Deep down, we grow in kindness when our kindness is tested." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu

When you exercise love and willingly give it to others no matter how much pain you are in, when you remove your initial attachment to any form of pain, you begin to take back your power. That power is joy, and your humanity needs it. 

No matter what happens in life, you always have a choice, and your decisions are evident in your words, thoughts, and actions. Each word, each decision, gets you closer to either becoming a bitter person or a more loving human; it's all in the choices you make. I decided to see others the way God saw them and not with my human eyes. 

I think to myself, "Wow, how amazing is that God allowed me to face these different forms of pain? I would've never understood the level of pain and struggle my brothers and sisters who face this go through if I couldn't relate. God has used this to bring me closer to the many people who have suffered misconduct and violence. And not only that but how difficult it is when others play the comparison game amid the pain.

I'm blessed that I got to be able to witness this, and now I feel much closer to each person because we all feel pain and we all struggle to share for fear of rejection and judgment due to all the hurt we feel. Now that I've faced both by sharing and have come out with more joy than I knew was possible, I know that there are more joy and love in me to give to my brothers and sisters as they face all sorts of hurt and pain life gives them."

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Will You Accept These Lessons?

Child! Pour yourself a drink and sit back because I had to sit in multiple therapy sessions to get my feelings in check after each season(wish I was joking).

I’m here to talk about all the lessons that I’ve taken from this year’s seasons of the Bachelor franchise and y’all better prepare yourselves. From womanhood, maturity, to gaslighting, emotional and psychological abuse, and sex. It got real this year and I hope they keep on bring up these deep topics.

Side Note: your girl is seeking therapy after this hot of a mess!

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Don't Be Silenced: We Heal by Being Mindful and Honest

"It doesn't matter. You put yourself in that position."

I started making up excuses for the actions of this man as he verbally judged me for being honest.

"I don't care. You're at fault. You put yourself in that position. You need to prove yourself to me." 

No person who's been taken advantage of is at liable for the lack of control and respect another person decide to not give them. Don't allow the hurt to ever silence you because damage that hasn't been given the proper amount of attention results in catastrophic ways. God's going to use what could have been tragic to heal not only you but many people. 

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Here's to the Real Ones

The day of my birth should be a celebration of the people who have brought me here. Those who have poured their souls out and connected with me are the ones worth celebrating the most.

So this year, I want to celebrate my mother, my father, my brother, all my family members, my mentors, my closest friends, and every person who has ever been a part of my journey. It's due to these beautiful souls that I could grow into the woman that I am at this moment as I'm typing this message to you. These are the real MVPs of my story. From joining in with my laughter to sitting and being patient with me through my darkest moments, these are the people who I know deserve the level of gratitude and love that we give on birthdays.

25, how are you going to be like?

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Not the Possibility of You, But You

AB: you know he has these amazing qualities that I admire in people, and I want within myself, but I just don't know.

HL: Like which part of him are you attracted to spiritually like as what you want in friendship and which parts are you attracted to in a relationship?

AB: Honestly, his desire to keep growing closer to God and wanting to chase after him is beyond the moon for me because I want that too. I want to keep chasing God. He deepens his relationship with the Lord through Scripture and service, and it's genuine because it's not to impress anyone or say here I am. Unless you dig it out of him, you wouldn't even know what he does for the glory of God. That's what attracts me to him spiritually, and I want that in all my friendships. Though, intimate relationship-wise, I think it's admirable that he prioritizes his family and speaks highly of them no matter what. His ability to let life be life and how inviting he is to every person is something I want in the man I do life with. He doesn't speak poorly of anyone.

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Your Choices Speaks Volumes

Some of us are quick to say that we love ourselves, but the choices we make seem to contradict that statement. How? When we make decisions to keep people in our lives who aren't a part of our alignment or distract us from who, God has destined for us to become. (you know the truth behind this more than anyone who those people are.) When we settle for anything that we know will cause less growth than if we were simply with Christ, we're not loving ourselves!

We cannot be in a healthy relationship with anyone if we're not in a healthy relationship with ourselves. We cannot give love if we don't first give it to ourselves. We cannot accept love if we first do not accept the love that God has for us. We cannot be who we're meant to be if we do not allow ourselves to meet ourselves. You and I cannot say we love ourselves if we don't know ourselves (which takes time, patience, compassion, and honesty).

Love for others begins when we love ourselves first. Respect for others starts when we respect ourselves. Compassion exists when we learn to give it to ourselves firstmost.

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Do You Love Yourself?

"Do you love yourself?"

If your answer involved a forceful response where you octave was higher than your natural tone, we should talk.

If your answer seemed forced as if there were a point to be proven, we should talk.

If your answer continued with explanations that involved your character, traits, or reasons that you wanted to give to why you love yourself, then we should chat.

If your answer were fickle (a yes, but shaky, a maybe, a sort of, or a no), we should talk.

What fascinates me is the difficulty this simple question presents. (Now, knowing me, be mindful that I have yet to have mastered this question or the depth to which the reasons that were given to me have. But I'm learning and growing daily.) How is it possible that a straightforward question such as "do you love yourself," can be complicated? I thought of two reasons why we overcomplicate this question…

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