On Sundays We Have Pho

I have a problem😳. I have a pho problem guys🏳️. I don't know whether I want to get cured for this or continue to let it linger until I cannot take it any longer.

From my previous post about pho, it is no surprise that I love the delicious warm soup made with flavored and preserved timely and filled with rice noodles and the occasional proteins. Seeing that I have been on the hunt to find all the fantastic pho shops in the DMV, I wanted to share with you all one of my newest favorite spots. Funny, this place was right underneath my nose.

Sunday at Saigon is not what I expected it to be. I had heard many of my acquaintance mention coming to dinner here, it wasn't until I met up with one of my closest friends for dinner that I was able to understand what all the hype was about.

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Cozy and Delicious: Busboys and Poets

Privacy is a luxury[…]

One of the perks of having a fantastic support system is how understanding, patient, compassionate, honest, and vulnerable they are. I mean, being able to spend time with one another and share our struggles and accomplishments while respecting and cheering each other on is priceless. Having a wonderful group of humans around you should be celebrated, and I've come to learn that I do that best when I take my loved ones on personalized dates. Recently, one of my ladies and I decided that we should take each other on a date. So we did. […]

If you're a lover of intimate family settings where everyone is in a positive mood and is comfortable and relaxed then Busboys and Poets need to be on your list of favorite restaurants in Northern Virginia.

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Your Choices Speaks Volumes

Some of us are quick to say that we love ourselves, but the choices we make seem to contradict that statement. How? When we make decisions to keep people in our lives who aren't a part of our alignment or distract us from who, God has destined for us to become. (you know the truth behind this more than anyone who those people are.) When we settle for anything that we know will cause less growth than if we were simply with Christ, we're not loving ourselves!

We cannot be in a healthy relationship with anyone if we're not in a healthy relationship with ourselves. We cannot give love if we don't first give it to ourselves. We cannot accept love if we first do not accept the love that God has for us. We cannot be who we're meant to be if we do not allow ourselves to meet ourselves. You and I cannot say we love ourselves if we don't know ourselves (which takes time, patience, compassion, and honesty).

Love for others begins when we love ourselves first. Respect for others starts when we respect ourselves. Compassion exists when we learn to give it to ourselves firstmost.

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Do You Love Yourself?

"Do you love yourself?"

If your answer involved a forceful response where you octave was higher than your natural tone, we should talk.

If your answer seemed forced as if there were a point to be proven, we should talk.

If your answer continued with explanations that involved your character, traits, or reasons that you wanted to give to why you love yourself, then we should chat.

If your answer were fickle (a yes, but shaky, a maybe, a sort of, or a no), we should talk.

What fascinates me is the difficulty this simple question presents. (Now, knowing me, be mindful that I have yet to have mastered this question or the depth to which the reasons that were given to me have. But I'm learning and growing daily.) How is it possible that a straightforward question such as "do you love yourself," can be complicated? I thought of two reasons why we overcomplicate this question…

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The Assassination of One’s Character

 Character Assassination is the act of attempting to influence the portrayal or reputation of a particular person, causing others to develop an extremely negative perception of him/her. By its nature, it involves deliberate exaggeration or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person.

Basically, it is spreading rumours and talking bad about somebody, to make people hate them.

I was recently made aware of feelings from someone who I don’t know. This person brought it up to me that they haven’t had the best to say or think about me. At first I thought, "well that's unfortunate but at least you’re honest." Then after taking it straight to Jesus, I realized, we’re all guilty of CA especially when we don’t know much about each other. Though, we are all individuals who have the amazing blessing of thinking for ourselves.

After really praying and thinking some more, I realized that at the end of the day, what we say about one another is a reflection of ourselves. We always have the choice to be better to each other and to ourselves, that’s what’s most important. As people, we all go through life in ways that really force us to grow. Maybe by recognizing that we are all guilty of CA, we can then take the necessary steps to become better men and women.

When we find ourselves talking poorly of someone else just to manipulate, over exaggerate, or even gossip ( speaking of someone without their knowledge, awareness, and ability to properly speak their truth) about that person we need to ask ourselves these questions: 

  • If the person was here right now, would they appreciate what is being said about them?

  • Would I appreciate any of these things being said about me if the roles were reversed?

  • How is this benefiting me and my goals?

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Abigail Badu
I'm Back

I don't blog to talk about people. I don't blog to bash people. I blog to release. I blog to revive. I blog to embrace. And I blog to encourage.

These are words I live, abide, and am. And with everything I have been through, I needed to make sure I treasured those parts of who I am.

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LifeAbigail Badu
It's Not My Time

Are you ready for marriage? When do you want to get married? I have a (fill in the blank) that is perfect for you. Would you be up for it?

we see how others have designed their lives and what's expected of us, we tend to allow ourselves to get into this warped comparison and a skewed perspective game that can diminish our sense of who we are and what God is saying and doing with us.

There is no person better to explain to you what you ought to do and how you ought to live your life than the one that gave it to you. (Of course, God will place the right people in your life to help guide you in making the best choices and that's where discernment comes into play.) And in all honesty, I used to be scared, no terrified of saying no or even attempting to object anything people would ask of me. Not saying that it has completely changed ( I have to catch myself sometimes) but I've learned three important lessons regarding those questions:

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For the Love of Korean Bbq: I Think I Just Fell in Love

For as long as I remember, I would declare to my friends and family that I would probably become a nun (do they even nondenominational nuns? Can someone figure that out for me? I'm going to google it on the side while I talk with yall). I honestly believe this may happen so don't say that I didn't tell yall. I mean come on, I'm over here already married to Jesus and if I could get married it would probably to food so...oh well.

Speaking of food, I have to tell you guys about an obsession I have been hiding from yall…

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