Posts tagged relationship
It's Not My Time

Are you ready for marriage? When do you want to get married? I have a (fill in the blank) that is perfect for you. Would you be up for it?

we see how others have designed their lives and what's expected of us, we tend to allow ourselves to get into this warped comparison and a skewed perspective game that can diminish our sense of who we are and what God is saying and doing with us.

There is no person better to explain to you what you ought to do and how you ought to live your life than the one that gave it to you. (Of course, God will place the right people in your life to help guide you in making the best choices and that's where discernment comes into play.) And in all honesty, I used to be scared, no terrified of saying no or even attempting to object anything people would ask of me. Not saying that it has completely changed ( I have to catch myself sometimes) but I've learned three important lessons regarding those questions:

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A Lesson from an Imperfect Person: Treasure It All

We tend to waste our time and energy on issues wouldn't matter. We allow great people and opportunities to slip through our grasp. But instead of learning what needed to be discovered we like to cover up mistakes with guilt, fear, anger, and regret.

I want to be different. I want you to be different. No more guilt, fear, anger, or regret because they do not come from Christ. Instead, when we realize why we made the mistakes we did or why God is having us go through the seasons we're in, let's replace guilt with gratitude. Replace fear with faith. Replace anger with patience. Replace regret with wisdom.

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Don't Waste Your Time: It's an Inside Job

I want to tell you a harsh, honest, time saving, heartache preventing truth that I refused to embrace for years…until now: happiness, fulfillment, and everything that brings you to the best version of yourself is an inside job.

[…]there are way too many people in this world getting jobs, making decisions, getting into relationships, and selecting choices that they are using to fill the unbearable pain that that is caused when true peace, joy, love, and happiness is missing.

I've become very aware (I really wanted to use, but I don't want to be dramatic) of how easy it is to allow yourself to hop from one experience to another in a (for lack of better words) foolish way.

re·bound

/rəˈbound,ˈrēˌbound/

verb

recover in value, amount, or strength after a previous decrease or decline.

You've got to pause on the possible relationships, pray rigorously about that new job, and take that opportunity to the altar before you say yes. And while you do those things, listen attentively (I cannot emphasize this enough) to the Holy Spirit.

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Glowing TF Up

I feel that there is a sense of realization and empowerment that penetrates the very core of a person when they are placed in either a fight or flight situation or when they realize there is untapped power and resiliency in their DNA.

I firmly believe that when we dig deeper, we are exposed to a part of who we are that sometimes can only be discovered when we realize our true worth and authority. This is where the glow up begins.

You and I are meant to go from season to season with more wisdom, lessons, experiences, and love than the seasons before. We are meant to allow the previous chapters we’ve faced to help formulate a new section of our life story that blows those who will read it out of the water.

I'm obsessed with how powerful Jesus and I are when we link up. It amazes me that there was always a fierce, loving, joyful, faithful, kind, thoughtful, bold, brilliant, and brave woman stored up inside me. I'm glad I get to let her out and let her roam. It's beautiful that I now get see where this version of Abigail is going to go and what she's going to do. I'm not living my best life (I have always been doing that). Now, your girl is glowing tf up!

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To The One Who Wanted To Give Up

I…have...been...there and it sucks!

I wish I could perform a psychological surgery and remove this depressive mental state away. But...it doesn't work that way.

They have all sacrificed everything for me. Each person I have mentioned has laid down everything in hopes of seeing me and seeing me live this life to the fullest.

It was the reminder that my mother and father sacrificed their comfortable home in Ghana for my education, joy, and success. It was the reminder that my brother, though 9 years younger than me, looks up to me and wants to see me make it in everything I set my mind to. It was the reminder that all the beautiful humans that called me friend valued the genuine smile they initially fell in love with. It was the reminder on the day that she left this earth, the day my grandmother completed her mission, that I recalled that nothing, absolutely nothing, in this world would make her happier than to see me ( broken, hurting, and ratchet in all) living a life that is filled with joy and hope.

I..have...been...there.

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Love, You Were Born With It

God created the core of who we are. Everything that makes us well...us is because God placed all that in us. So when we face trials, when we feel hurt, when we get upset, and we feel like we are at our ends, there's honestly nothing left but love.

 

All that I am is love because Christ is love. All that I have is love because Jesus is all I've got. All that I know and can feel is love because Spirit of God that dwells in all of us is all we've known and feel. So next time when you want to act a type of way or give your two cents (no one really needs those cents anyways, it's not like it's got all that value) remember who you are and whos you are. 

 

You and I were never created to be hurtful towards one another. No, God created us to love each other, love ourselves, and love him. Love is the essence of who we are. You don't need to change that much about yourself to know that you are nothing but love and that's all you got.

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