Posts tagged friendship
Clarity: It's All About the Relationship

So this is how it all happened: I was listening to a sermon by Judah Smith. By now, I'm pretty sure we've all come to the realization that I enjoy listening to Judah! (Go Church Home!) I had finished a two-hour workout, dinner with my best friend, and a lady chat, when I was heading home, and God said, listen to some sermons young lady. You know me, I said, "Aye Captain (cue SpongeBob)."

I had yet finished the sermon when I kept hearing the phrase, "die to self," in my mind repeatedly. (I think a part of it is because I know that showers are holy places and Holy Spirit speaks in the shower (and everywhere else. Okay, I'm confusing us, let me get back to this post.) I started asking, what does that mean? Where does it come from? Why do we say that as believers so often, and what does God mean by it? How do we do it? Is it something for just our relationship with Christ, or does it integrate into all of our relationships? How do we know we're doing it?

My question for myself (hopefully we all ask ourselves this) moving forward is: how am I loving my brother or sister in this? How am I dying to myself, choosing God's ways through what the Holy Spirit is telling me in this situation? Does Scripture match up with what I believe the Holy Spirit is guiding me to?

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Plot Twist: I'm Dating!

Guys, I have a problem!

Oh my goodness, this is wild. I think this post is about to be an intervention for me because I have to share with you all this problem that I have…

I cannot stop dating!

[…]"be careful with who you get in bed with." I typically associated this saying to whoever wanted to be my boyfriend but it goes beyond that. The adage applies to our friendships too.

[…]Forgiveness says, "hey, I'm acknowledging that you messed up, but I care too much about you and what we have that I'm willing to take this experience and make our relationship better." Love says, " I will choose you in every lifetime because the real you is who I want to have in my life."

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Love, You Were Born With It

God created the core of who we are. Everything that makes us well...us is because God placed all that in us. So when we face trials, when we feel hurt, when we get upset, and we feel like we are at our ends, there's honestly nothing left but love.

 

All that I am is love because Christ is love. All that I have is love because Jesus is all I've got. All that I know and can feel is love because Spirit of God that dwells in all of us is all we've known and feel. So next time when you want to act a type of way or give your two cents (no one really needs those cents anyways, it's not like it's got all that value) remember who you are and whos you are. 

 

You and I were never created to be hurtful towards one another. No, God created us to love each other, love ourselves, and love him. Love is the essence of who we are. You don't need to change that much about yourself to know that you are nothing but love and that's all you got.

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Hey, It's Younger Me and I Want to Hug It Out

Embracing your battles isn’t about approving them but understanding that this is a battle that you must either go through, around or overcome.

I find this to be a tad bit harder than the two above because I have a strong belief (this seriously non-negotiable for me) that it takes two to tango (it takes two to make a mistake). But instead of seeing pain like so, we all tend to look at pain as on so and so inflicted this upon me. It's his fault, her fault, or sometimes it's even the poor dog's fault! (Leave the dog alone. Dog's are love, let it be😂) Take the word fault out of your vocabulary! It's doesn't come from Christ (this is my belief) and blaming one another is what Adam and Eve after they screwed up. (If we ought to learn anything aside from not talking to serpents, we ought to all learn that the blame game will never work. It only creates a monster out of a simple situation)

It does take two to tango, but your dance partner will never be able to reassure you entirely after you make a mistake. Since God never created us to be entirely healed by one person, but through him only, we will never find peace after battles until we give it all to him. You and I must learn to speak love to ourselves. We deserve forgiveness when we mess up because God first forgave us. We deserve to see the best in us when we go through because though we are sinners the Father finds us valuable in his eyes.

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Thank You, I Needed That

I needed to go through the pain. I needed to go through the hurt. I needed to go through the rejections. I needed to go through the disappointments. I needed to face everything that happened last year. I needed to go through 2018 to make my 2019 effective.

No pain or hurtful experience is enjoyable at the time just like the writer of Hebrews says. Just like children, we don't like to be put in time out when we mess up. We don't want to be grounded or corrected when we do wrong but…we need to. We need to make the necessary mistakes so that we can understand who we are, who's we are, and more of the journey that we embarked upon when we said yes to Christ.

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