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It's Not My Time

Are you ready for marriage? When do you want to get married? I have a (fill in the blank) that is perfect for you. Would you be up for it?

we see how others have designed their lives and what's expected of us, we tend to allow ourselves to get into this warped comparison and a skewed perspective game that can diminish our sense of who we are and what God is saying and doing with us.

There is no person better to explain to you what you ought to do and how you ought to live your life than the one that gave it to you. (Of course, God will place the right people in your life to help guide you in making the best choices and that's where discernment comes into play.) And in all honesty, I used to be scared, no terrified of saying no or even attempting to object anything people would ask of me. Not saying that it has completely changed ( I have to catch myself sometimes) but I've learned three important lessons regarding those questions:

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You Knew the Truth, You Had to Sit in the Pain

Self-saturation:

when one is able to remove themselves from the events outside of themselves and inwardly look at the positive elements of who they are while using said elements to strengthen and recover from any and all battles they are facing.

I am a firm believer when it comes to inner peace and centering oneself through every experience life gives you. I believe that no matter how long it takes for you to overcome internal battles, you should allow yourself to fully grasp all the lessons that are in front of you and soak in everything God is teaching you.

We must allow ourselves to sit in the presence of our pain, confusion, frustration, uncertainty, and everything that bothers us. We must let ourselves honestly feel what (if you're like me) we are afraid to explore. And in the process of doing so, we must allow God to reveal what we have been too scared to see.

I want you to get a message that took me a while to grasp (and I'm still learning this): The pain, hurt, confusion, frustration, and every not so great feeling you are experiencing will never go away until you are able to face it and let God remold it to reveal the truth that it was meant to be.

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I Stopped Looking for Mr. Right Because...

Am I becoming the person that the dream man (or woman) ought to be doing this thing called life with?

I have been focused on making myself the woman that this man I've been praying about ought to be with.

As much as I love dreaming about the future just like any person, I haven't referred to this list for the possibility of who I'm meant to be with but rather who I am meant to be. Confused? I know, let me explain:

I believe that whatever we want for our Mr. Right (or Mrs. Right) to be, we ought to not only be realistic about our desires but ask ourselves:

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Chop Chop, Start Laying Them Bricks Down!

Your life has the potential to become the greatest form of art you could've ever imagined, but you will fail to become the masterpiece you were meant to be if you do not take some hits and use those punches to strengthen yourself.

Call me naïve, call me childish, call me ignorant, but I will continue to believe that the best lessons in life are the ones you acquire from the most painful and challenging experiences. The knowledge you develop and store in your soul from the struggles, trials, and tribulations you face are the ones I've realized stick.

Reflect on this year, last year, the past 10 years, or your entire life. What are some of the hardest cards life has dealt for you? What bricks have been thrown your way? Some hurt more than others; nevertheless, they seemed (and some may still seem) to have weighed you down in some way or else you wouldn't be reading this post. What have you done with those bricks? Have you carried them this entire time and not applying it to the structure of your home? Have you been looking at your life, playing the pity party, and saying, "whoa is me?" Have you been wasting these amazingly strong elements instead of using them to create a fortified home?

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Proper Healing: He's Got You

"There's nothing more powerful for your growth and future than to allow yourself to grow and heal properly in the arms of God."

- Mom

The bond and the relationship that you allow to grow with God is natural, transformative, healing, and altogether more compelling than anything life itself can produce. It is the exact relationship your soul has always yearned for because it is the only way to tap into true peace, joy, and gladness.

No matter what you did, what has been done to you, where you've been, who you've been, and what anyone says about you, your identity and the core of who you are is as visible to the Lord as the very skin you bear. God knows you and has seen everything you consider painful, disgusting, or awful about yourself. Yes, those things in your story that you hide from people; he sees them all. And even after witnessing it all, he chooses to love on you and care for you to the point of not only healing your body but your spirit. If this isn't what love is, then I don't believe love exists.

[…]who are was always inside of you. But until you realize that, you will fail and find no joy wherever you go. By allowing the Holy Spirit to teach me how to praise the Lord in all seasons, I've learned that the essence of who I am (the part that I aim to continue growing into) is found in who he is.

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Plot Twist: I'm Dating!

Guys, I have a problem!

Oh my goodness, this is wild. I think this post is about to be an intervention for me because I have to share with you all this problem that I have…

I cannot stop dating!

[…]"be careful with who you get in bed with." I typically associated this saying to whoever wanted to be my boyfriend but it goes beyond that. The adage applies to our friendships too.

[…]Forgiveness says, "hey, I'm acknowledging that you messed up, but I care too much about you and what we have that I'm willing to take this experience and make our relationship better." Love says, " I will choose you in every lifetime because the real you is who I want to have in my life."

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