What It Is to Be a Sexy Christian


I feel as if I'm definitely treading uncharted territories today!

Sexy is such a foreign concept to me that I'm surprised God has given me the audacity to speak on this. Y'all, I had to ask around what people consider sexy to be because I just don't understand this word (as I sip my tea in my 90s shirt with glasses resting on my nose and hair tied up. God, I am not qualified, but you know what I'm still going to do this thing).

One person said that sexy is to have confidence in yourself. Another person explained that sexy to them is physical; either you have it or you don't (I think this a common view for many of us). Though, after chatting with some of my squad, I've come to realize that the concept of 'sexy' is perspective based. Not just in what you, as an individual, find sexy but in how you define the very word.

Therefore, I decided to create my own definition of sexy (sorry Google, you didn't do me enough justice) but I needed some help from my main man upstairs.

Sexy: to embrace and display who one is from within by exuding outwardly of the confidence, self-assurance, self-love, and authority that one has.

By the I created definition, I began asking myself, "wait I'm a believer, how can I be sexy? Is that something I want to be? Does God agree with this whole sexy thing? What would it mean to be a Christian and sexy at simultaneously?"

Remember how I said in the previous post that self-love requires us to have these crucial and honest conversations within ourselves? (It Not Me…It's the Truth) Well, that's what I did, and I found out that there is such a thing as a sexy Christian. (Now mind you, that I'm using my definition, so this doesn't apply to anything physical but everything emotional, psychological, and spiritual.)


What is a sexy Christian?

I believe that a sexy Christian is one that doesn't just have godfiendence but continuously saturates themselves in the presence of God through their intimate time with the Lord. A sexy Christian is one that the beauty of who they are goes beyond their words and their actions. To be what I consider a sexy Christian, one must be in love with Christ, the ones God has placed around them, and the very essence of who they are.

Should you aim to be a sexy Christian?

Now, this is based on each person, but as for me, I don't believe that you should aim for it. See, this sexy Christian thing is something I think as you continue to walk with Christ, the boldness and love of Christ will penetrate your spirit that you become a sexy Christian by default. It's not forced but something that God reveals within you and through you.

Does being a sexy Christian match up with the Word of God?

This is where I know debates would more than likely occur but it's alright, I'm prepared (sort of). See, this website is free of negative discussions (there is no room for that here. We are a community that loves, and this means that instead of debating we like to bring forth what God says to each person and accept that the Spirit of God is at work.) That being said, let me answer this question: Yes.

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. '

- Hebrews 4:14-16 (NKJV)

according to the eternal purpose which He accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord, in whom we have boldness and access with confidence through faith in Him. Therefore I ask that you do not lose heart at my tribulations for you, which is your glory. To me, who am less than the least of all the saints, this grace was given, that I should preach among the Gentiles the unsearchable riches of Christ, and to make all see what is the fellowship of the mystery, which from the beginning of the ages has been hidden in God who created all things through Jesus Christ; to the intent that now the manifold wisdom of God might be made known by the church to the principalities and powers in the heavenly places, '

- Ephesians 3:8-13

Do we begin again to commend ourselves? Or do we need, as some others , epistles of commendation to you or letters of commendation from you? You are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read by all men; clearly you are an epistle of Christ, ministered by us, written not with ink but by the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of flesh, that is, of the heart.'

- II Corinthians 3:1-3

Now, let me make sense of everything I just shared. I believe that when we allow God to take over ( when we start living and being children of God who are madly in love with their creator), we become sexy Christians. See, I used to say that there was nothing sexier and more attractive than a man who is chasing after the heart of God. But I've come to realize that this isn't just a concept for dating but for self-love.

When you and I are in our elements, accepting and believing in who God has created us to be, we become undeniably sexy. I find it a beautiful state of being.

To be unapologetically confident in the Word of God, the promise of God, the power of the Lord, and the love of Christ is sexy to me. This is a new and real level of sexy that cannot be taken away by what others perceive of you. This level of sexy is what causes mountains to shake and rivers to roar. This type of sexy is to be reckoned with because it's a type of sexy that belongs to you through the gift of your salvation in Christ. It's an eternal type of sexy.

It's not the clothes, makeup, accomplishments, or body shape a person has that makes them sexy. It's who they are, who they believe themselves to be, and the unshakeable faith that God has given them to trust in who they are in Christ. That is how one becomes and stays as a sexy Christian.

Until next time...