A Gift Before It's Time Is a Curse


(Initially, I wanted to title this post “The Best Worst Decisions I Made in 2018” but God wasn't vibing with that one, so He gave me a new one. So here we go!)

We like to quote the Bible left and right when we are going through the trials of life. It's the Word of God, and it's meant to be used throughout our lives. Though sometimes we either misinterpret what the Scriptures are saying, or we overlook essential verses because we've grown accustomed to them. This post is about the latter.

I have been overlooking some words from Jesus, and in this season of my life, this message couldn't be any more appropriate.

"Who among you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? OR if he asks for fish, will give him a snake? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask him. Therefore, whatever you want others to do for you, do also the same for them, for this is the Law of the Prophets."

- Matthew 7:9-12 (CSB)

' “I still have many things to tell you, but you can’t bear them now. When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth. For he will not speak on his own, but he will speak whatever he hears. He will also declare to you what is to come. He will glorify me, because he will take from what is mine and declare it to you. Everything the Father has is mine. This is why I told you that he takes from what is mine and will declare it to you. When a woman is in labor, she has pain because her time has come. But when she has given birth to a child, she no longer remembers the suffering because of the joy that a person has been born into the world. So you also have sorrow now. But I will see you again. Your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy from you. '

- John 16:12-15,21-22

As the year is concluding, I'm looking back at all that I have experienced and noticed that I have made some not so great decisions followed by making better choices(but haven’t we all been through this though 🤷🏾‍♀️). I allowed myself to be surrounded by people that weren't contributing to my spiritual, mental, and emotional growth. I did that to myself by saying yes to people I believed were gifts. But they were premature gifts which they weren’t meant to last the way I intended.

The things I have learned to let go of this year were the very same things I begged God for years ago. But instead of trusting him and asking for discernment prior to saying yes, I began to seek those things, people and environments that weren't beneficial for me. Indeed, a gift before it's time is a curse.


So what do you do when you realize that something you so desperately wanted wasn't what God (and sometimes secretly you) wanted for yourself?

See what could’ve been a curse as a lesson. Embrace the lesson. A lesson that not everyone and not everything is for you just because you want it or them to be. Harsh truth: your desires aren’t perfect. You may admire someone and want that person to be in your life because they inspire you or that you see the best in them. That doesn't mean they are meant to be your friend or your significant other.

If God allows there to be tension, needless conflict, or strife between what you wanted and you, then it possibly could mean that gift wasn’t ready to fully be yours to have.

If you've ever baked chicken before, no matter how great your seasoning is, if you do not allow the chicken to cook in the oven for as long as it's required to, you will have an uncooked chicken which will result in salmonella. Though you may recover from that food poisoning, you'll learn going forward to let that chicken bake. (I hope you learn this cause going to the doctor for food poisoning is no fun!)

Same goes for your requests to God. He doesn't have to grant them, but just like he said because he is a wonderful Father, he will give you all that is for you (trust him already, hasn’t he proven himself enough?). You have to learn to embrace your gifts when they are cooked and ready to be served to you. Not 20 minutes before, you don't want salmonella.

I'll conclude by letting you meditate on this Scripture (mind you that David didn’t know when but he still believed it would happen in due time):

'I am certain that I will see the Lord ’s goodness in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart be courageous. Wait for the Lord .'

- Psalms 27:13-14

Until next time…